5 Essential Tasks To Complete Before Divorce


You never wanted the love and passion you had for your spouse to disappear. Unfortunately, it has, and the end of the marriage arrived. If you're preparing to file for a divorce, there are several essential tasks you must check off your list first. Here are five things you must do before your divorce:

1. Consult with a divorce lawyer

The absolute first thing you must do is consult with a divorce attorney in your area. Even if you think your divorce will be amicable, you should at least get legal advice. Divorce law varies greatly from state to state and can be very complicated. An attorney can give you advice in the following areas:

  • Child custody and child support
  • Splitting of assets
  • How to file
  • What should and should not be in the settlement

2. Get your finances in order

Your financial situation will change considerably after you're divorced. You need to prepare yourself to avoid debt and major blows to your savings. Here are some tips:

  • Set up your own checking and savings accounts that are separate from your spouse
  • Change your direct deposit at work so your paychecks go to your new account
  • Create a realistic budget based solely off your own income
  • Live within the new budget even before the divorce so you learn to stick within your means

3. Decide where you will live

You need to decide where to live after the divorce. Will you rent an apartment? Will you remain in the home? If you decide to remain in the home you need to calculate how much it would cost to buy your spouse out of their share. If you can't afford to do so, or your state doesn't allow this, you should prepare to move. Begin looking for apartments and save the money necessary for deposits.

4. Talk with friends and family

A divorce is challenging emotionally and mentally. You need a large support system by your side. Don't be ashamed to tell family and friends about your divorce. There's no shame in ending something that's painful. If you have children, you must also tell them what's going on so they can prepare. Remember that even if you're upset, don't badmouth your spouse, especially to your children.

5. See a therapist or counselor

Even with a large support system you will likely need more help in sorting through emotional turmoil. There may be difficulties in your marriage or you may have feelings you do not want to share with loved ones. Having an impartial person there to listen without judging can be a great help. A therapist may also offer advice that you or your loved ones haven't thought of.

These are five essential tasks you should complete before a divorce. Contact a local divorce attorney for more advice.


14 April 2016

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